Depends on what you're talking about. Right? My life has revolved around my boy, so for now, that's what I'm talking about. My boy is getting bigger and he's becoming devilish. Devilish in a good way. He knows how to rope me in. He's good at that. Just when he knows he's creeping under my skin, he looks at me with a warm smile, arms stretched out, and says: I want a hug. This does not excuse your behavior. It's what I tell him.
Since he has decided to potty train himself, life has gotten a bit hectic. For my husband and myself, that is. We weren't exactly prepared to go diaper-less so soon. But it's okay, we're going with it and there's no turning back. Our boy is getting bigger and eventually we would have to teeter down this wobbly path. Our son is leading the way and maybe that part scares me the most.
As much as I want to allow my son as much independence as possible, how well will his decisions really be? I suppose now is a good time as any to start trial and errors. Granted, there are a few decisions that he tries to make and we have to steer him into a different direction. But so far, he hasn't put too much of a battle against us.
I allow him to make decisions whenever possible. We always have 2 choices on what to do. Lunch or Nap? Yes Please or No Thank You? Would you like ME to do it, or YOU? No matter what, he's making a choice. Of course, I'm setting the stage on what I would like him to do. But allowing him to consider his options is important. And hopefully, as he grows older, he'll find similar choices and choose wisely. Because I won't be there for every choice he makes, so I can only hope that he can learn a good choice from a bad one.
My son is getting bigger and there is no denying he'll be grown before I know it. I can either sit and wait until he's all grown up and moved out, or I can play an active role in his life and help guide him along the way. It's the best I can do especially since he thinks he has all the answers already.